I’ve always liked Ben Affleck, but I really liked the speech he gave for Argo’s Best Picture win at the Oscars on Sunday. And yes, I know this is tilted. But it’s the best version of the entire speech that I could find.

I get everything about this. Doing things for your kids because they are the mirror that you see yourself in. And why showing them your best self is such a big deal. I even get his awkward statement about marriage being work. It is work, the best kind of work, even when it feels effortless and amazing. You work to show up and be present and support each other every single day. I get that you won’t both be happy in your careers at the same time every day, or even every year, but you always celebrate the other’s highs and pull them through the lows.

I get it, and I really love his story.